Do You Struggle With Self Confidence?
It could be more than that. I’ll tell you how you can raise your confidence AND your self-worth.
Hands up if you feel that you could use a little more confidence. You are not alone. But what if your low confidence is having an impact on every aspect of your life; your decision making, your social life, your relationships, and work? Could it be more than a self confidence issue? Maybe what you actually have is low self worth.
Firstly, let’s define what we mean by self-confidence.
“Confidence” means “to trust” in Latin. Isn’t that what we do when we throw ourselves into something new? We take up a new hobby, tennis say, and we trust in our ability to hit the ball back across the net at least once. If we manage to hit the ball a few times then our confidence increases and we book in for another lesson. Our confidence in our ability increases each time we make contact with the ball!
The more that we practice the higher our confidence. Of course, we can’t all be good at everything. When it comes to drawing, for instance, I’m terrible. I have no confidence in my ability to make a piece of art. Important to note; this does not mean I have no self-belief or low self-esteem. My self-worth is high. It is only that my confidence is low in my artistic abilities. However, I am fairly confident in my ability to run my therapy practice (though that took a lot of self talk at first about how capable I was; I was not confident at all when I first started!)
Self confidence or self worth?
Self worth on the other hand is how we view ourselves. We can have low self worth (believe very little of ourselves) but appear confident to others. I have clients who are extremely successful in their work life but their self worth is rock bottom.
They believe that they are an imposter in their work and that one day they will be found out. On the surface though they appear confident. Furthermore, they should have confidence in their ability; they know…